tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8415510386869273614.post4001682712090156543..comments2023-06-06T10:04:59.874+01:00Comments on You Shall Go Out with Joy: Laid-back or lazy?Amyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08641509566095727946noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8415510386869273614.post-28113073615849642032011-06-12T13:10:54.383+01:002011-06-12T13:10:54.383+01:00I'll chime in here (and probably be that reall...I'll chime in here (and probably be that really annoying "more experienced mom"), having been through this stage 3 times, and now having 6, 4 and 2-year-old kids.<br /><br />Following the child in the first year & a half or so is the only way to go. Eventually, you'll find that Baby does need a "schedule." Kids do need routine, just not in the baby year. And you're right, you'll feel your way into it. My kids got onto a two-nap-a-day schedule sometime in the first year (late), and sometime in the second year they eased back to a single afternoon nap. You have to lead them to this, but you can do that and still be an attachment parent. It's not lazy at all; it requires great thought and creativity to lead a child to the place you're trying to get them, without stomping over their needs and preferences. The older they get, the more needed are the routines. One of my blog friends is doing a whole series of parenting practices, which are awesome. Here's the one on routines: http://www.emergingmummy.com/2011/06/in-which-we-have-routine-my-practices.html<br /><br />Okay, I'll stop being annoying now and go get showered for church. :)Kathleen@so much to sayhttp://www.kathleenbasi.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8415510386869273614.post-92040444611104933312011-06-10T03:45:09.589+01:002011-06-10T03:45:09.589+01:00Geoff's mom babysat for Dominic these past thr...Geoff's mom babysat for Dominic these past three days while I was at work and at the beginning she asked me about his schedule and I kind of laughed. Uh his schedule is when he is tired, I put him to sleep. When hungry, I feed him ect. I agree with Melissa that it is harder and more time consuming to parent your child to sleep, cosleep, breastfeed on demand, ect. But we do it because it is what is best for them right now. There will come a time when life gets a little more strict, but I will deal with that when the time comes. :)<br /><br />See you next week!!Daciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01835636106102322421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8415510386869273614.post-49425693821554409912011-06-10T01:11:13.196+01:002011-06-10T01:11:13.196+01:00I struggle with this, too. I think at this age (my...I struggle with this, too. I think at this age (my son is only a few months older), the rules that need to be set are safety and 'courtesy'. For example, we don't let Peter stand in his high chair or in the tub. We discourage him from yelling in restaurants or during Mass. This way he is learning that there are rules, but they are not arbitrary. I think deciding when to instill rules, and what they should be, will be an ongoing process as we parent, though.CatholicMommyhttp://workingtobeworthy.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8415510386869273614.post-37344951805299916492011-06-09T15:54:19.636+01:002011-06-09T15:54:19.636+01:00I often see people making the point that "nat...I often see people making the point that "natural parenting" works great for lazy moms (mostly by natural parents poking fun at themselves), and I totally get what they're saying, but I don't think any of us are truly being lazy. It would take far less physical energy to put a child in bed at a certain time and let them fall asleep on their own, rather than parenting them to sleep for example. <br /><br />Sometimes if feels lazy because it's so darned logical and simple, but you are definitely not a lazy mom!melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16698231692999838673noreply@blogger.com